This is a word we all struggle with! How many of us really appreciate ourselves? We strive so very hard to please others, whom sometimes seems unappreciative of our efforts. Thus, leaving us feeling like we have very little value.
I decided several days ago to make "Appreciate" the word of the week. I had my own ideas of what to say about it, until I looked it up. It almost felt like the Universe had grabbed me by my arms and shook me to wake up. So this piece is going in a complete different direction than what I had intended.
We are so focused on lifting others up and trying to make them feel good about themselves. But how often do we lift ourselves up to feel good about ourselves? How often do we set boundaries for others not to cross over, showing ourselves honor & respect?
Relationships have always been very hard for me. In the past, I have always been the woman who "loves to much". My past relationship lasted a little over two years. When it was over, I was left feeling like I was worth as much as the toilet paper my x-lover wiped his ass on.
I believe the Universe gives us a free will. As humans, that free will can get us into trouble. However, after doing the same things over and over, and getting hurt each time, there comes a point when we realize we may have a problem. For most of us, the problem is that we do not appreciate ourselves as we should.
That energy of the lack of self-appreciation is picked up on others. It even draws others towards us that do not have their own self appreciation. As a result, we find that we want to be appreciated so much by another person, often we become "doormats".
Although this is not rocket science, it took that last relationship, along with three and a half years of being alone to understand this.
It is funny now how I look back and am shocked at the things that I would do for others to receive acceptance and appreciation. This does not apply to just lovers of my past either. Allowing myself to be bullied on jobs, giving into the desires of friends and family members when it went against my own personal values and making very bad choices of compromise with lovers. No wonder I have had a lack of self appreciation. I get it, why others did not show me appreciation either, because they knew that I had very little to none of self appreciation or love.
We all have little ways of showing ourselves appreciation. In my case, I recently have met someone who may turn into a romantic partner over time. Just yesterday I was discussing with a female friend of mine that I will not allow myself to call him, text him or in any way run after him. Remembering that I have suffered in the past from the "woman who loves to much" syndrome. I explained to her that he, or any other guy has to "court" me. They must conduct themselves like gentlemen. In the conversation with my friend, I told her that I HAVE to do it this way for ME. It really has nothing to do with the possible future lover, but all about learning to appreciate myself.
This week I invite you to ask yourself what is that you need to do for yourself to see your worth and appreciate YOU?
Past Life Reading
Friday, December 6th
12 pm - 7 pm
A fun reading that many love to do. Tap into your past life and find out why certain things seem to happen in your life today. If it is a cycle that needs to be broken, a past life reading will give you much better understanding in how to break it.
Cost: Love Offering
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SATURDAY JANUARY 5TH
Each month Gypsy Spirit will be holding a Chakra Workshop. For the month of January, we will be focused on the root chakra. There will be essential oils, herbs, meditation, chanting, and special foods to eat for balancing the root chakra. You must be prepared to release toxic energy and embrace a new positive energy at this workshop.
Cost: $15.00 (includes all supplies & materials)
*Must be paid in advance*
yoga mat is suggested to bring